Romance is one of those words which is almost impossible to
define.  We are all romantic to varying degrees.  For instance, I
never considered myself to be the romantic type; nevertheless,
there has been time when I acted romantically.  Whatever the
case, we can all agree that romanticism is perceived differently
by the sexes.  Conquering her, or his, heart will require
different approaches.

Emotionally, men and women have different needs.  Where we
missed the boat completely is that both genders need to be wooed
by the opposite sex.  Example:  If I ask a woman for a date, I am
in effect saying, “I like you, I want to get to know you better.”
My question is:  Why is this a one-way street?  Why would a woman
not be able to freely ask a guy she likes for a date, and, yes,
treat him?  I know, I know, there are still all kinds of silly
conventions carried over from centuries gone by.  But we are in
an advanced age.  We have mapped the human genome and are working
on the epigenome.  Which is harder, completing such a complex
task or get men and women to express their preferences freely?

Taking it one step further, why shouldn’t a woman proposes
(and eventually buy the engagement ring!) to a man she loves,
just as the man proposes to her?!  Whoever stumbles on the idea
first, the more power to her or him.  (Actually, this is beginning
to happen; but I am thinking more in term of a fifty-fifty
proposition.  This may take time, or, to our surprise, it may
quickly be espoused.  Let this article open the door to this
forthcoming revolution!)

If we go down that road, let us look at the consequences.

How do you refuse to go on a date when asked by a nice lady?
Gently and diplomatically.  Men have been rejected countless
times doing the same thing; and to my knowledge, few of them have
ever jumped from a bridge!

The person inviting should treat if he/she can afford it.
Thereafter, each one in turn will pick up the tab.

It’s painful emotionally when somebody turns you down.  But
why should the guys always have to go hat in hand to ask and risk
rejection?

It’s so important for a woman to know where she stands after
a long courtship.  When she decides that the time is right, she
can pop the question:  “Will you marry me?”  The element of
control is taken out of the hands of one gender and put in the
hands of both genders.  Which is as it should be.

There are, needless to say, many other considerations if we
ever decide to gradually embark on such a sea change.  No doubt
books can (and will) be written on the topic.

In this brave new world, we now have a novel question:  “How
does a woman woo a man?”  It’s important to stress that she is
conquering him as opposed to drowning him in her sexuality as has
been the case so far.  She can of course do both, but the wooing
should come first.

How will that work?  I don’t have a clue!  Nobody really
knows.  Simply stated, it’s a new science!

However, since this section is about successfully romancing
a woman, let me go back to that.  Here, at least, we are in
familiar surroundings, for this is a very ancient science!

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