Equal Partners
by Roland Ezri

Equal Partners by Roland Ezri

Equal Partners

By Roland Ezri

"Women are the backbone of all societies. They do a substantial part of the work, and play a major role in raising the future generation yet they are largely powerless. The decisions that count are made by men and foisted upon women."

Writings by Roland Ezri

What Women Want – I. Introduction

Between 1993 and 2000, I met some 70 women in an attempt to
find a companion with whom I could share my remaining years.
Ultimately, I came out empty handed!  Neither the ladies, nor
indeed myself are to blame for this outcome.  Throughout this
period, my view of this whole endeavor can best be summarized as
follows:  “If it ain’t broken, don’t fix it!”  Not surprisingly,
therefore, I am today single and I might add happy with my
present status.

Was the whole exercise then a total waste of time, money,
and energy?  Quite the contrary; during those years, I learned
more about women than I could hope to learn in two lifetimes!  At
the end of this period my views on women were totally altered.  I
can honestly say that after 2000, women looked very different to
me than when I started.  I acquired a new respect for the other
half of humanity.  I also learned a lot.  Some of the knowledge
acquired is summarized in this article.

How did I manage to meet all these ladies?  At the beginning
of the ’90s, the personal ads were making a comeback.  They were
also going high-tech.  When I placed an ad, interested women
would leave a message in my box (really a kind of voice-mail).  I
would listen to the messages, and call some of them; if the lady
in question was interested, we would meet over a coffee.

The old-fashioned method was also available (depending on
the newspaper).  After I placed my ad, respondents would write a
letter and send it to a mail box number.  In turn, the newspaper
forwarded these letters to me.  Again, the same procedure was
followed, I called, and if there was a meeting of minds, we met.

A few years later, this methodology would have been
considered stone-age!  Consider receiving a handwritten (some
were typed) letter on pink stationery, and, yes, with sometimes
the smell of perfume and a heart drawn under the signature!
Contrast that with a cold email; they are obviously light-years

Most of those encounters died on the drawing board!  Only
two relationships resulted from that.  But, by no stretch of the
imagination were they a waste of time.  We met and talked for at
least an hour.  I learned from them and they learned from me.
Remember, these are two adults with a whole life lived behind
them.  We are sure to derive some benefit from that one date.

A personal ad is short.  A one hour date is even shorter.
What I am saying is that there is no time to beat around the
bush, both parties need (and did) to put all their cards on the
table from the onset.  Thus, I gradually managed to know (as much
as a challenged male can hope to) the criteria a man must meet to
hopefully be accepted by the fair sex.

Before I share my knowledge with you (whether you’re a man
or a woman), there are a number of qualifications that you should
keep in mind as you read this article.

1. While the information provided is largely based on live
encounters, there is some research involved.  At the top of the
list comes “Evolutionary Psychology.”  This new branch of science
shows us that the actions of modern humans parallel that of their
primitive brothers and sisters in the dawn of humankind.

2. This is not a “How-To” type of article; it may elucidate
some mysteries about womankind, but don’t place all your bets on
it!  It has male limitations written all over it!  Indeed, if the
brightest women on Earth teamed to write a self-help manual for
the challenged male, they would not succeed in helping out.  The
males and females of the species will always be two solitudes;
the sexes connect with each other out of sheer necessity.

3. You may decide that some of my comments are meaningful to
you.  On the other hand, you may be offended by some of them.  If
so please don’t.  Do not take anything as being the definitive
word on the subject.  As well, some points are made tongue-in-
cheek.  By using humor, I can often make a more convincing

4. Of necessity, this article is a generalization.  We are
so vastly different from one another.  Therefore, nothing that is
said here can exactly apply to any one individual.

5. I am often being candid.  There is no point in writing
anything unless you tell it like it is; of course, sensitivity
and common sense should always prevail; and it does here.

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