What Women Want – XV. Must be Romantic (2 of 3)
Date Posted: August 19th, 2010
Compliments
Compliments are like spices. Put too much and you risk
ruining your dish. Too little and it’s barely edible. None at
all and your dog would turn away from it. Following this line of
reasoning, what are the features of a “good” compliment?
1. Sincerity. Women need to know that they can trust a man,
that he is not a player. For them, one sincere compliment is
worth ten insincere ones. Your stock goes way down even with one
false compliment.
2. Specificity. A vague compliment is like a dish where a
crucial spice has been left out. It’s still edible, but it’s
bound to disappoint. Saying, “nice dress” does not leave her
with a satisfied feeling. On the other hand, saying, “that green
dress goes so well with you red hair,” is a real mood-elevator.
She feels good about herself.
3. Frequency. Too many compliments lose their impact, it
becomes too much of a good thing. Too little will leave your gal
unappreciated and wondering if you still love her.
4. Unexpectedly. Compliment her when she isn’t expecting it
– as a sign of your love and your appreciation for her. Some
women reported that the only time they get compliments is when
they ask for them.
5. Intelligently. One of the greatest compliments you can
give a woman is to appreciate her mind/soul/intellect. And the
beauty of it is that she doesn’t even have to be your age. You
can be 80 and she can be 18, and yet, she will be tickled pink by
your compliments about her intellectual accomplishments. More so
since young men in her age group will focus mostly on other
“assets.”
Gifts and thoughtful gestures
A heartfelt gift ranks very high in the heart of a woman.
You need not break the piggybank, small things speak just as
loudly as an expensive ring – well, most of the time.
Sometimes, how you present the gift can be just as important
as the gift itself. For example, if you bring her a box of her
favorite chocolates, don’t just give it to her and say, “I know
you like them.” Rather stress that you remembered her and went
specifically to buy them for her. Even better, write a card
tying the sweetness of the chocolates to what she means to you.
Put the gift in a given context.
A really valuable gift for a woman is an intangible one:
your time and attention. Listen to her and give her your
undivided attention. This point has already been discussed in a
previous section. What I am saying here is that it is a part of
being a romantic guy.
Along the same line, share time with her in a meaningful (to
her) way. For example, get a babysitter and go out for a
romantic dinner.
A warning! Most women don’t appreciate gifts associated
with sex. It make them feel cheap and used.
