What Women Want – XVII. Must be Interesting (1 of 3)
Date Posted: September 2nd, 2010
Women absolutely love an interesting man. But interesting
means what for them? First and foremost a man who can be funny,
intense, and serious when needed. He should have a mix of traits
and be able to show many of them. All personalities are made out
of more than one component, but often we can show only the
salient ones.
For every criterion discussed previously, women have many
sub-criteria. And this to the extent possible have also been
outlined. In addition to the requirement of being a mixed (and
not mixed up!) personality, what are the sub-criteria that makes
you an interesting male in the eyes of a woman? I don’t know
them all. And even if I did, I would not have enough space to
list them all! The ones I know follow.
What makes you interesting to a woman?
1. A good sense of humor
This requirement has already been addressed.
2. Depth of knowledge
Whether the lady I met had a Ph.D., or had dropped out of
high school, they all thirsted to expand their horizons. They
politely demanded to share my knowledge.
3. Listening
While this point was previously considered, here I am
discussing it in a different context.
To come across as interesting in a first date, you should
not monopolize the conversation. Part of the time should be
devoted to listening. At times, she may do most of the talking;
that’s fine too, however, make sure, when she comes up for air,
to talk about yourself!
According to a study, women talk three times as much as men.
The average woman will utter up to 20,000 words in a day – 13,000
more than the average man.
Inherent differences between the male and female brains
account for the fact that women are chattier than men.
4. Avoid spending all your time on one narrow subject
The most typical topic men will engage in is sports. It
can’t get any more limited. You come across to your date as being an insipid person. How exciting can it be to hear about
the incredible goal, with seconds to spare, that’s marked by a millionaire superstar. Even if she is a sports fanatic
she would like to learn a thing or two about
you.
Most women I met were delighted not to hear me talk about
sports. Mind you, I would have been hard-pressed to do so.
Baseball and football are a deep mystery to me. I take a mild
interest in hockey and basketball. I do, however, like soccer,
the most elegant game on the planet.
Meeting a man who did not say a word about sports was, I
suspect, very refreshing for these ladies.
5. Exhibit interest in the subject she is talking about even
if it’s not your cup of tea
I met a lady who spend a great deal of the time we had
together, talking about the fact that she conducted a church
choir. She started as a member of this vocal ensemble, and in
time, she married her knowledge of music with her experience
singing in the group to develop, organize, select adequate
programs, and conduct the choir.
To be honest about it, the chorus activities she described
were as exciting to me as a glass of warm beer!
And yet, I managed to show interest and ask intelligent
questions. How can you gauge who has talent? How do you develop
promising singers? When is a group made out of women only? Men
only? Men and women? When are young boys and girls used together in any given choir?
And so on. At the end, she congratulated me on my knowledge of
music. Actually, my knowledge is quite basic. Either I fooled
her, or she was nice enough to emphasize the strong bits of
knowledge I had.
